Today is Memorial Day. I understand the tradition and solemnity that comes with this day, and honor that. This day also causes me to reflect on the importance of making memories – the good ones – that will comfort you in the future and bring you smiles (and sometimes tears will accompany).
We are camping at my Mom’s house this week, and planning a trip with her next week. I am so excited that she is planning trips with us. This really means a lot to me. My Mom is amazing. I want to be just like her when I grow up. There has never been a time in my life that I felt truly alone, or without someone who loved me unconditionally. Mom and Dad were always there. To this day, I know that I can pick up the phone, and Mom will be there – to listen, love, and support. Yes, Bill does this also – but a mother’s love can’t ever be replaced. This is the woman who has seen you at your very worst (– and hopefully your very best) and will still answer the phone when you call.
I can always count on Mom to be “in” for my latest wild idea, recipe, or spontaneous adventure. No matter where we are, when Mom is present, it just feels like going back “home”. We laugh a lot, sometimes cry together, but mostly – and I am so thankful – we create wonderful memories. I realize how blessed I am to have this relationship – not everyone has this. I look forward to celebrating this ability to make memories and plan to exploit the ability as much as possible.
The really important thing to recognize is that you don’t have to do extravagant things, or extreme things. Some of the best memories are in the ordinary, the everyday stuff you do together. We walked the dogs together yesterday morning, and some funny stuff happened. We laughed long and loud, and are still giggling like school girls about it. Today we are going to buy some flats of flowers to plant – something we do together every year. I have no doubt that there will be considerable laughter, much dirt, and love and joy that surpasses the imagination.
Go out and make memories. Let down your guard, drop your protective shields. Feel – the good and the hurt – and cherish those feelings. Find joy in the ordinary everyday – because it can turn magical and wondrous right before your eyes!
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